Potty Training - Day 6

Bad day for cleaning, good day for learning.

My mother came over again.  No visitors or kids but she stayed much longer.  She made breakfast and finished doing my dishes and cleaned my stove.  Plus she left food.

I can't pee with an audience and I believe it is a private thing.  I knew it was time for him to be put on the potty but I didn't want to force it.  I don't want him thinking he can pee in front of anyone and I don't think he'd be comfortable.  I was also distracted by my mother wanting to see pictures and whatnot.  So he had an accident.  I was able to rush him over to the splat mat so only half got on the carpet.  This has happened before and like before I told him to simply stand and wait for me.  My mom, wanting to help I'm sure, started asking him why.  I told her to shut up.  Yup, not nicely at all.  She also tried to get him, probably to clean him and change him, but I told her to leave him alone, and again not so nicely.



See, this is between us, between me and him.  He doesn't need to answer to anyone but me.  I know why he had an accident, it was my fault.  I am the parent, I do the questioning if it is needed.  As a general rule I don't like just anyone cleaning him/changing him.  I think it is important to know that being naked in front of others is not ok and that I clean him, bathe him, and change him because he cannot do these things on his own.  His caregiver, my sister, also does it for the same reason.  She does it for me when I cannot be with him.  I've never liked just anyone changing his diaper or tending to his needs, I don't want more people than it is truly needed touching him.  This is very important for me because I was abused as a child. It is never ok for anyone to touch him.  I only do when bathing him or during a diaper change and I trust my sister only does during those times too.  I can't have him thinking anyone, even if they are family because those are the ones that are more likely to abuse children, can do it.  Just plain NO.

So her feelings got hurt.  Whatever.

He has been going to pee every 2-4 hours, and I have been gaging this based on his readiness cues.  My mom had left and I saw readiness cues so I sat him down on the potty.  When I pulled down his undies I noticed the inside was wet.  It didn't soak through the Gerber training pants so I knew it wasn't much pee.  He sat for a while and nothing so I let him stand up.  My mom had given him some of her soda and he had taken my water on top of his morning milk so I thought it was just left over fluid.  Less than an hour later I see his underwear are wet.  These are regular undies and they weren't soaked so again it was only a little pee.  I sat him down and was a little concerned this could be a sign that maybe there was something wrong.  Up until his point every time he has peed, either on himself or in the potty, has been a significant amount that not only soaks the underwear but travels down his legs and onto the floor (or the potential to do that when it has been on the potty).  These little accidents aren't the norm.  Anyway, while he was sitting and I was looking around to see if he had peed on anything, I start hearing the sound of him peeing.  This is when the light bulb went off!

My mom brought him some new toys.  He was probably too into his new toys to want to stop and go through the whole ordeal of changing so when he felt it coming out he stopped it.  So he wet his underwear but didn't empty his bladder.  This happened twice, which is probably why the second time was so close to first time.  He really had to go!  And probably why he peed in the potty without much effort.

I also learned today that he knows how to make himself pee.  I had noticed that when I sat him down on the potty and stopped the bubbles he tended to pee soon after.  I figured the bubbles relaxed him enough to be able to go but wanting to play with them didn't let him actually go.  So stopping shifted his concentration.  I had noticed that he would push down on his penis into the potty and figured that either the sensation of it coming out was interesting or he liked spraying it around in the potty and that was the only way to control it.  Today I sat him several times without a pee.  Every time I noticed him doing this when I would tell him if he had peed and I could see muscles straining.  I think this is a good step in the right direction.

In all he peed at total of five times, including the two mini accidents, and only made it in the potty twice.